BY: GERI ASH.
This first week of school has driven me bat shit crazy. Can somebody please explain to me how my son has only ridden the bus once because he has overslept the rest of the week? Can somebody tell my bonus child to speak up for himself if he doesn't like something? I'm in a mode to where if this were a job I'd quit and look for something else. I know we sometimes refer to parenting as a "second job" but in all actuality, it's a life sentence. Yes, parents, you have an inmate number!
Hell even after they become legal age, you still have to guide them in a sense. It is an understatement for me to say my kids are getting on my nerve. I've gotten to a point to where I've accepted that sometimes I'm not going to like them. I don't want them telling me "I don't know" when they are answering my questions. I don't like that they say to me "I can't do" this or that. I want to grab the words out of their mouths every time I hear it and beat their asses with them! A young man saying "I don't know" will never be an acceptable answer. They can use their phones and Play stations but can't use their words?! What kind of world are we living in today? There is nothing worse than a person who cannot articulate themselves. I tell them all the time that women don't want the future leader of their household to be a man that continuously say the "I don't know." One day women need to be able to have confidence in my son's ability to lead a household.
I am hard on them, and I don't feel bad about it. My mama calls it tough love. The world will not consist of bubble gum roads and fairy tales. We are raising two black men who have to know how to express their feelings, not get pushed over, conquer their fear of rejection, and be confident in their position. Excuse my French, but, I fucking refusing to raise young men who can't control their emotions. You can't allow the world to see you sweat so when I feel that they are doing it I get pissed off. I don't let me kids be in their feelings in public. Although expressing yourself is crucial there are a time and a place for it. I'm not the type of parent that will allow any child to bottle up their emotions. If I let that happen, it will train the boys to have unhealthy communications skills. Bad communication is the last thing they need to develop.
Raising children is the hardest job in the world. It leads to grey hairs and emotional eating. I think the hardest part about being a parent is acknowledging that you may potentially screw your kids up or guide them into adulthood with the proper tools they need to survive. Being a parent is a risk that does not reveal the outcome until you are standing in it.
Moms, what are your thoughts??